a very dear friend wrote some time ago that "one of the most frustrating things in life is that you cannot heal the hurt in another person's heart".

very true. but while we may not be able to heal the hurt, we can show up and support the ones who are hurting. it's relatively easy to do, given what's going on with the one who hurts. they're the ones who feel the pain and have to do the real work.

this reminds me that: 1. i've been missing my dad a little bit today, 2. that i need to check up on another friend of mine 3. that i think my boyfriend is one of the most excellent humans i have ever met and 4. still trying to understand, after all these years, how people can be such cowards in relationships that they string someone else along for months or years, with lies and deceit and fakery and bullshit like "i don't know what i want" and "maybe we have a future".

how can they NOT KNOW how much they are hurting someone else? it fucking boggles me.